Why Can't We Be Friends [SmashMouth]

I'm not saying the friends we have aren't good enough, or that we don't have enough of them, but you can always use more, right? not that I'm after some sort of record number of facebook friends - cause i don't believe in facebook anyway. I'm just saying that there's nothing wrong with opening yourself up to a few more options.

as an adult, making friends should be easy, but it's not. i think mostly because i don't go places where you would normally think to make friends. no bars, no dog park (cause we don't have a dog) and no mixers - cause who goes to mixers? and generally, i don't like my co-workers enough to talk to them throughout the day, and certainly not after working hours.

so what's a couple to do?

look to those around you, that's what we did. actually, we weren't actively looking for new people to hang out with, but there's a couple our age who moved into the house semi-across the street from us, and they seem cool enough. for the however long (2 years, maybe) we've exchanged niceties across the street, and occasionally loaned tools or collected mail for each other. while i was at target, and then in Texas, they were on the lookout for jobs that might get me back in the field, or back home. we've always thought they were nice, and we've talked about hanging out with them, but how do you bring that up? do you go across the street and say "will you hang out with us?" "wanna come over and be our friends?" every scenario makes us sound like sad, pathetic middle school kids with no friends. so we never "made a move" so to speak, and just kept up the cross-street conversations.

but back in October we were talking about Halloween, and pumpkin carving, and how we were excited because we didn't do Halloween while i was in Texas. KTO and i got a little excited and hollowed out our pumpkins a little too early, so we only did 1 each, as opposed to 2 or 3 (which was the goal) due to size constraints i had to scrap my Dexter pumpkin. we were telling this to the neighbors and it turns out that they enjoy Dexter too, but don't have premium channels, so they always wait for the DVDs of the most recent season to come out. We have showtime, and we can get Dexter on demand, so we decided to stop watching the season as it was happening and then have the neighbors over to catch up on the season. we made it through the holidays, and last weekend we finally had them over for dexter-fest, part 1. we had lunch, chatted a bit, and watched 3 straight episodes of Dexter.

not only is the show awesome, but our mutual love of the show was a good way to break the ice and try to grow a friendship. and we've given very little thought to that we're starting this friendship over a show about a serial killer. hopefully that's not a metaphor for how our friendship will play out.